In this essay, I’ll give you some tough advice that will help you alter your life. These are specific things I wish I’d understood sooner—things I’ve had to learn over time and now live by.
Before we begin, a word of caution: they may appear easy, but it is typically the simplest things that become lost, passed off, or forgotten over time. Don’t confuse easy with simple. What makes the difference is your capacity to constantly train your mind and focus on committing to the development and implementation of these life skills as an adult.
Each of these abilities has the potential to revolutionize your life, but I’ve kept the best for last. Don’t waste time getting started when you’re reading them. Now is the moment to take action. If you feel you need to change and aren’t getting the most out of your life, I assure you won’t regret making these changes now.
You’ll notice that I’m being straightforward for a reason: we all need someone to advise us to “wake up,” to take responsibility for our own lives, and to be someone our families can count on. Don’t be scared to do things a little differently than your peers. You’re not your average self. Being average, on the other hand, has a way of creeping in, and the only way to avoid it is to go against the grain.
This is the point at which you begin to crave new acquaintances, relationships, and associations. If this is occurring to you, trust your instincts and extend your horizons by following your thoughts and intuition. This is your time; now is the time for transformation. Adults should develop the following eight critical life skills.
1. Set Your Intentions Daily
Life will set them for you if you don’t. That’s all there is to it. If you don’t pay attention, you’ll wonder, and gradually, quietly, you’ll fall into bad patterns and habits that don’t support who you were meant to be or where you eventually want to go.
You acquire clarity regarding your goals and who you want to become by setting an intention for the day. In other words, if you set a daily goal and hold yourself accountable for it, you are more likely to live the life you want. At first, I was skeptical—how could something so simple make such a tremendous difference? It has to do with daily small victories compounding. People don’t just happen to be fortunate. They put themselves in this situation.
Perhaps this resonates with you right now—you refuse to be a product of your surroundings or a product of your education. What’s possible for you is incredible. If you have a strong desire to do more and participate fully, you are welcome to do so.
You can stay on track, respect your time, and indirectly value yourself more by being a person who sets an aim for the day. This is a significant event! Your self-esteem and self-perception are important. You are open to chances and connections in a way that only you can understand if you love yourself. This is what you provide to the world: your one-of-a-kind capacity to be yourself and decide the course of your own life.
2. Create Energy
We must acquire the ability to create energy even when we don’t want to as top performers. This allows us to be constant in our pursuit of the qualities and talents we know will help us live life more fully. The ability to do things when we’d rather not, like the skill above (setting intentions), is what makes the difference.
Being able to produce energy in moments when everyone else is faltering, quitting, or giving up is a clear method to display your character and commitment to excellence—at work, as a leader or boss, to your family. Furthermore, it enables you to fully implement habits and rituals while also serving as a role model for others.
You’re the girl who goes to the gym despite the fact that she’d rather be at home. Instead of surfing through social media, you’re the man who prepares for the sales meeting and, as a result, has questions that dazzle the CEO. This is the ultimate divider, the thing that ensures you succeed in both business and life.
3. Action and Urgency
It’s time to get serious about taking action. A climber does not plan every move before looking up at a steep face. Instead, they begin and make little tweaks as they go. When we confront major problems, hurdles, or complications in life, it’s all about getting started.
Those that take action enjoy the benefits, but there’s more to it than that. The world is competitive, and if you want to be a top performer, you must take action quickly. The element of urgency is quite important. Sometimes once-in-a-decade possibilities present themselves, and you must be ready, eager, and hungry to seize them as soon as they present themselves.
4. Put a Price on Your Time
Knowing the value of one’s own time is another key life skill for adults to develop. Far too many people grumble that they aren’t running their own business or that their sales figures are lower than they want them to be because of a bad market by doing duties that don’t connect with their objectives, dreams, and vision.
The solution is to quit working on jobs that pay less than your hourly rate. You must determine a number for your hourly rate, which can be higher than the one you are now on. It has to motivate you. Then, using this hourly fee as a guide, determine which tasks to outsource. Is it better to walk across town to save $10 on cab fare versus coming to work early and getting a head start on the day?
When you place a higher value on your time, it puts things into perspective and allows you to progress toward the life you desire. What are you focusing on if you’re starting a business? Is it Instagram, cooking, cleaning, bill paying, or birthday planning? Question everything you’re doing that’s less than your hourly wage and outsource it (if possible) so you can focus on what really matters.
5. The Art of Persuasion
Learning the skill of persuasion is essential in both business and life. This refers to your capacity to obtain what you want, read a room, sell, and enjoy the process while doing so.
Confidence in the art of persuasion comes from knowing how to affect others, and the best approach to influence others is to make them accept your own beliefs rather than trying to convince them that something is true. It’s a small but significant distinction.
6. Surround Yourself With Your Dream
I adore staying in five-star hotels. I’m drawn to them because of their quantity and opulence. That is why, even if only for a day, I make it a point to go and spend the night. When I was trying to make ends meet—my six credit cards were all maxed out, my bills were mounting, and the dream I was battling so hard to keep alive was weighing heavily on me—I made it a goal to never lose sight of where I was going: the broader vision I had for my life.
When I could only afford a coffee or even the reception, I’d choose a luxury hotel and work out of the restaurant. I desired to be around by the people who shared my ideal life. This was about having an abundance mindset in the face of adversity, to me. This is what allowed me to tune in and stay focused on my goal.
If you have a desire or a vision for your life, be aware of how you allow yourself to experience it, and celebrate minor victories and accomplishments as they happen. Too many individuals wait too long to celebrate their victories, and as a result, the Universe takes notice, altering the frequency with which victories occur.
7. Give and Give Some More
Giving is a big part of what makes life rewarding. If you’re experiencing doubts, concerns, negativity, or anxiety, the best thing you can do is concentrate on what you can provide. It doesn’t have to be monetary; it could be as simple as a smile or as profound as listening to a friend who is going through a difficult moment.
The objective is to include giving into your skillset so that you recognize it as one of your primary tactics for staying on track and contributing.
8. Get Clear on Your Identity
Knowing who you are and what you will tolerate in life is more important than everything else. This adult life skill will determine your level of success, the habits and rituals you establish, and the standards you set for yourself. If you want to improve your own life, you may need to start changing a few aspects of your personality.
If you work in sales, for example, make going the extra mile a part of your personality by working an extra hour, getting up earlier, going to the gym more times per week, or doing an extra rep. These minor changes have a significant impact on your identity. Your identity will change and you will link yourself with it if you do it consistently over time.
A Word of Warning
With all of the life skills for adults listed above, the most important thing you can do for yourself is to follow through on what you say you’ll do. Keep the promises you make to yourself. It will help you gain confidence in a way that nothing else can, and as a result, you will become more. That’s why, today, I say commit, but I truly mean it, because the most important thing you can do is trust yourself to do what you say you’ll do.
To succeed in life, you must have a trusting connection with yourself. The more experiences you have where you can be proud of yourself and identify that within yourself, the more self-confidence you will have and the more you will be able to offer to remember, the time has come to accelerate your life’s trajectory and velocity. Don’t put it off; get started right away and iterate as you go.