Positive thinking, according to research, may lead to a prosperous and happy existence.
People who experience good feelings like joy, satisfaction, and love see more possibilities in their life, according to Barbara Fredrickson, a psychology researcher at the University of North Carolina.
That sounds wonderful, but you’re probably wondering…
How can I begin to think more positively and, as a result, have a better life?
You must let go of negative ideas and sentiments that are holding you back before you can begin to think positively.
You must close the door on habits that are holding you back
Focus on what you have. That is to say, don’t waste your energy on things which are not good in your life or the person whom you don’t like actually. Free yourself from the burden of the past you can not change. Learn from it and move on.
Forget about the situation, moment, or the person to forgive you, Just forgive yourself, learn from that, and move on. I can promise when you start to practice this and see yourself after a few years.
You’ll be a better person from now and proud yourself that how you overcome all those things or situations.
Here are ten things you should let go of right now in order to change your mindset from negative to positive and start living the joyful life you deserve.
1. Let go of your grudges.
You don’t have to accept every awful thing that has happened to you (or even any of it), but you must learn to forgive and go on.
That does not imply that the other person was correct or that what they did was acceptable. It simply means letting go of the bad energy you carry around with you so you may go on and create a joyful life for yourself.
The Mayo Clinic claims that letting go of grudges and resentment might lead to a happier and healthier life.
Forgiveness can lead to the following outcomes:
- Improved interpersonal interactions
- Spiritual and psychological well-being is improved.
- Anxiety, tension, and anger are reduced.
- Reduce your blood pressure.
- Depressive symptoms are reduced.
- An immune system that is stronger
- Heart health has improved.
- Increased self-esteem
2. Let go of your comparisons.
You will constantly be unhappy if you gaze enviously at what you believe other people have. Worse, the kind of reality you’re conjuring up in your brain might not even be true.
The ancient adage goes, “the grass isn’t always greener.” Your neighbour may have a nicer house and vehicle, but you never know if it came at the expense of a happy marriage.
Your coworker may be moving up the corporate ladder more quickly than you, but she might also be suffering from cancer. That artist in your online group could appear to be selling a million items, but he could be lying.
Be appreciative for what you do have, and keep in mind that there are a variety of reasons why you might not be seeing the whole picture.
There are some advantages you have that others do not. Furthermore, other individuals aren’t you. Whatever they have—or don’t have—has no bearing on what you have or don’t have.
Judith Orloff, M.D. explores comparing ourselves to others in her book Emotional Freedom, and how it might stem from poor self-esteem and a lack of faith in the integrity of our own unique path.
This book will help you realise that your life is specifically intended for your own development, allowing you to let go of your comparisons and live a happy life.
3. Let go of ideals you no longer hold.
Ideals aims and goals vary, as do beliefs. You don’t have to believe what you thought ten years ago if you don’t have any reason to believe it now. You don’t have to have the same objectives as you did when you were ten or twenty years old.
You have the option to change your mind.
When you let go of your responsibilities to your former self, you may find new methods to reward the person you used to be. Even though you change, you are still a direct descendant of who you were before. That transition is lovely, and it acknowledges both the “then” and the “now.”
4. Let go of the idea that you don’t fit in.
It’s not about altering who you are to suit a mould when it comes to fitting in. It’s frequently about recognising that there’s a place for you just as you are and that the people around you are more diverse than they look on the surface.
While this isn’t always the case, it happens more frequently than you may believe. If you’re always worried about not being “normal” or “good enough,” you were most likely raised with those fears. It doesn’t mean they’re correct.
The argument is that in order to have a happy life, you shouldn’t have to modify yourself to fit in. In truth, it is feasible to meet people in your community who share your interests, no matter how unusual they may appear.
Whether you enjoy writing, being a mother, rock climbing, or science, there is certain to be someone around who shares your enthusiasm; all you have to do is put yourself out there and look for them!
5. Let go of thinking you don’t deserve happiness.
If you were invalidated as a child, you were undoubtedly raised on a diet of guilt and self-hatred. However, you don’t have to feel bad about being yourself.
Remember that regardless of who you are or were, you were raised with the same invalidation. You’ve got nothing to do with it.
Others cannot determine for us whether or not we are deserving of a good existence. You are the only one who can choose to love and respect oneself.
You deserve love, whomever and whatever you are if you are living the truth in your heart. It’s time to let people go if they don’t agree.
6. Let go of toxic people.
Poisonous persons are those who are overtly malevolent. Others are more subtle and, out of envy or insecurity, cheer for our failure without even recognising it. Finally, you are not accountable for the feelings of others.
You must treat others with respect, compassion, and decency. If you do that and someone still wants you to fail but still wants to remain in your life, you have every right to let them leave.
We already have enough harmful ideas dictating our thoughts and feelings. Allowing negative individuals to continue to contribute to your inner monologue is not a good idea. Surround yourself with good individuals who genuinely care about your happiness.
7. Let go of needing others to like, accept, and understand you.
That isn’t to say you shouldn’t demand respect and gratitude from people close to you. If you can’t have friends, partners, or other “selected connections,” they don’t deserve to be in your life.
However, people do not need to fully comprehend you in order to appreciate and accept you. They also don’t have to like everything about you in order to love you. It doesn’t matter what people think of you; what matters is that they believe in you.
Relatives, parents, siblings, neighbours, coworkers, bosses, society as a whole, and so on do not need to like, accept, or understand you in order for you to like, accept, and understand yourself.
Waiting for their appreciation or support to accept your genuine nature might feel like a long train ride that never arrives.
Test Yourself: Social media has become an integral part of our lives in recent years. Ironically, it has the ability to suffocate us. Delete your social media accounts for a period of time if you genuinely want to quit worrying about what people think about you and your personal life. Falling off the face of the internet for a bit might be just what you need to get your creative juices flowing.
8. Let go of impossible standards.
If you anticipated to be a billionaire by the age of 30, but instead find yourself fighting to make ends meet on a few thousand dollars, let go of your unrealistic expectations and forgive yourself for not being superhuman.
Nobody is self-made, and there is no such thing as a self-made individual. The truth is that we have been living through difficult economic times.
To be a wonderful person and have a happy life, you don’t have to be superhuman. And it is what you do with what you have, not what you were given, that determines who you are.
A happy life is a result of setting S.M.A.R.T. goals. Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Timely are the acronyms for Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Timely.
In this case, the key is achievable. “Is this aim realistic and attainable?” you might wonder. If not, toss out those improbable objectives and go back to the drawing board.
9. Let go of the idea that life must be fair to be good.
Isn’t it wonderful if life were just, and goodness, decency, and honesty were rewarded? Wouldn’t it be wonderful if being gifted and perceptive guaranteed success and happy life? Wouldn’t it be wonderful if unwavering devotion and perseverance were rewarded?
That is not the reality we live in. Every day, amazing individuals fail. We’ve all known someone special who died far too soon or someone outstanding whose work is overlooked by everyone but them. We’ve all met harsh, immoral people who have achieved enormous success.
That isn’t to say that a universe is a bad place or that your life will be bad. Things go wrong for good people and good things go wrong for terrible people, but not always. And all of your furies will do nothing to make the universe more equitable.
However, by being nice, decent, and faithful to the people you love, you might be able to make your tiny part of the world a little bit fairer. Life is unjust, but you have the ability to be just. You have the ability to bring joy to someone else who deserves it.
10. Let go of the need to feel like you are comfortable all of the time.
So much of our everyday anxiety and worry stems from the erroneous belief that being uncomfortable is always negative. But, isn’t it true that being comfortable isn’t all that great when it keeps you from happiness?
Getting out of your comfort zone is difficult at first, but the more you do it, the more you’ll realise that being uncomfortable does not always mean you’re in danger.
In Sascha Ballach’s book Get Out of Your ComfortZone, you’ll find the required information as well as a variety of practical activities to help you develop your personality and realise and extend your potential beyond your comfort zone.
With this book, you’ll be able to let go of the notion that discomfort is a bad thing, and you’ll be able to fully free yourself to truly grow as a person.
Until you do, you’ll never start that new business, marry your sweetheart, or publish that masterpiece. Also, don’t be scared to make others uncomfortable. Say exactly what you were born to say. Allow yourself to live the life you were born to live.
It’s never easy to let go, and cleaning up the pieces or adjusting to a new viewpoint can be much more difficult. But that is precisely why #10 is the most crucial thing on this list! It will be much simpler to let go of everything once you’ve let go of #10.